The real you?

That's the question of the moment. Who is the real you? If who you think you are as a person is totally different from your friend's views, then who is right? I took a lot of time after the divorce to try and figure myself out. The adjectives I'd use to describe myself and who I want to be don't seem to line up with the one's my friends have used. And it seems that everyone thinks your friends know you best. It sounds like ones perception of oneself is tainted by the fact that you're supposed to like you. So when someone says, "you're an asshole" you tell them you're not. When in fact you are. I've always been hard on myself. But closer to fair I hope. I know some of my strengths and all of my weaknesses. But to find out that I'm out in left field on who I think I am in comparison to my friends views is tough. This whole time, maybe I've been the problem that I thought others were. This next week should be interesting. I guess it's time to go back to the drawing board again.